May I humbly posit that struggle isn’t SOMETIMES necessary for growth — it’s essential. I can think of many people who’ve not had to struggle to get where they are (hint TOTUS) and they usually have the maturity of a child, the emotional depth of an insect’s swimming pool and a toxic, total lack of empathy and compassion.

And yet — there are those who struggle silently, even when we think The World has been handed to them on a silver platter. In fact, many of these people have an inner war raging we know nothing of or about. These are the most fascinating people I know. The sad part? When they confess to their struggles, people balk: “You have nothing to complain about! You’ve never had to fight to survive, to…” ah, haven’t they?

I’m reminded of Robin Williams, a success from the world’s, the public’s vapid knowledge of him. And yet, he once said, “I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that[sic] make you feel alone.”

So whether the struggle is within or without, I think we all must struggle, and embrace that struggle, in whatever form, if we want to expand beyond our wildest aspirations. Loved your article, as usual. xo

J.A. Carter-Winward: award-winning poet, novelist, artist. Follow her here and her writing blog: Writing in Blood

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